A VISUAL · THE YES/NO FLOW
The Yes/No Flow
Five questions. Quality of thought comes first.
STARTSomeone I love is struggling — and I feel the pull to step in.
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1SAFETYIs anyone in danger right now?
YES →ACT NOW Call, drive, get help — now. Their need is real, so act, and stay as calm as you can.
NO →Go to question 2
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2MY GROUNDAm I grounded: God the only power, me able to listen?
YES →Go to question 3
NO →PAUSE · GET GROUNDED Breathe. Pray. Listen. A hurried decision isn’t wise yet. Come back when calm.Then back to question 2.
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3THEIR ABILITYDo I see them as able — not needing me to survive?
YES →Go to question 4
NO →LOOK AGAIN God is their power, not me. Name one real strength in them. Then ask again.Then back to question 3.
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4THEIR CHOICEDid they ask, or did I decide for them?Yes = they asked. No = I decided.
YES →Go to question 5
NO →OFFER, DON’T IMPOSE “I’m here. What would help?” Then listen, and let them decide.
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5THEIR WORKWould I be doing what they can do themselves?
YES →WALK BESIDE Ask questions. Name their strengths. Stay close without taking over.
NO →GIVE FREELY They may truly need a ride, a meal, an ear. Give it — no strings, no scorekeeping.
EITHER WAYStay close. God is the only power, already at work in them — I’m a friend, not the source.
They may truly, humanly need your help. That was never the question — the question is the thought it comes from.